In my rookie year of teaching, I’m challenged with a bunch of slow learners, a few mentally and physically challenged ones and some really distracting students all at once. This is a hell lot to take care of when you have just started living your dream. But this isn’t what gets on my nerves. As a matter of fact, I suppose these challenges and work pressure would make me learn something concrete which I can use in my upcoming teaching career. I take it as a preparation for even harder future experiences. It tests my patience, forbearance, my level of understanding of educational psychology, child psychology, knowledge of my subjects, my behaviour with students, their parents and other staff members. And trust me, I only want to excel in this. I have no other option. I can’t let myself to be overwhelmed and carried away by anything.
In my expedition of learning how to teach and tackle kids mentioned above, it is not the kids who make me go mad, but their parents who are so overprotective of them. They have a hard time in accepting their child’s faults, inaccuracy and misdeed. Parents often fail to understand the fact that kids at elementary level need attention and time both from parents and teachers. Most of the time, it’s only the teachers, who are supposed to use a magical wand and make their ward learn every single thing in school without any attention being paid to them at home. They expect us to tackle them with utmost love and care, which is I agree we should, as long as things work that way. But, to be true and being in this profession now for a while, I can claim that some level of strictness and discipline is required to make them do things. Obviously, by saying that I do not mean to discourage them by shouting at them and creating an environment of terror in the classroom.
Over-parenting To be frank, in my case individual difference is the reason which many a times makes me punish them for not doing and listening to what they are asked to. Parents do not accept the shortcomings of their child. They do not allow them to stumble and to learn to problem-solve. The point they are missing here is that by doing this they are preventing their child to learn important lessons which they will later need in their adulthood. Parents guilty of over-parenting takes their child’s perception as truth, absolutely neglecting the facts. They would believe their child over the teacher and would go on criticizing the educator’s potential and school’s administration. What they do, is to deny the probability that their child was at fault or would even do something of that nature. This affects the independence of education poorly.
These are the kind of parents who worry a responsible and dedicated educator the most. They won’t let their child learn. They highly overlook and sometimes totally ignore the value of learning and understanding. They would curse the teachers for low grades and would choose to do not give a little bit of thought towards the problem. Teachers do not just teach course based concepts or fine motor skills; we teach to be organized, well-mannered, how to be responsible for your doings, how to handle victory and rejections, to be mentally prepared to handle challenges of upcoming life and the real world. And as we know, these things may not matter to them today, but, as the child would land his flight beyond those four walls, these are the things that are going to show their impact on him. This simple aspect is generally disregarded.
I’m not suggesting to have a blind faith in educators and let them do it their own way, no matter however that be. But, some amount of trust is needed. Efforts from parents and teachers, both is necessary. It’s vital that parents must know that making mistakes is important. No body learns to be perfect without being imperfect. They should learn to accept the failure of their child and should come forward to give a helping hand to teachers, so that the task becomes easy. It is more like a mutual thing.
Negative feedback It seems harsh and difficult to take on. I agree whether good, bad or neutral, feedback gives us a lot of thought to ponder upon and the tone in which it is sprinkled upon us have a huge impact on us. It might just ruin or made your day. Yet, it must be taken and welcomed open-handedly. It is difficult to accept our own or our child’s imperfections and incompetency. But to fail for a while is way more beneficial than to be an utter failure throughout the life. This is the most important thing parents and guardians should understand.
When a teacher gives negative feedback about your child, he doesn’t mean to disrespect you or sweep aside your ward’s credentials. He only cares about the future consequences of his wrong doings today. It is important that parents determine the usefulness of this temporary negative feedback. Teachers and parents, both should work together in turning the negative feedback into a positive one, only then we can expect any improvement in child’s potential.
To keep their kids from falling off side, they are micromanaging their lives, avoiding and fulminating against schools and institutions. This is not taking their child anywhere but permanent deterioration. I’m waiting for a day when an educator will be trusted and appreciated for his extra efforts to make a child better than before and to turn him into a more competent and responsible adult. Please allow your kids to fail, allow them to take independent steps and have some amount of faith in their teachers, who are working for the welfare of your child and their future.