Living away from home has never been easy for anyone. We got to do a lot of adjustments and settlements here and there. In the end, we may or may not be satisfied, yet we get accustomed to the whole thing and make peace with it. Those who could not, give way to fear or defeat. After all, it’s the courage to continue that actually counts. This whole living-away experience gives us several things and in the end, we find ourselves mustering a bag full of memories of solitude and self-discovery. Luckily, mine has been a good one so far.
A sneak peek into the lessons learnt until now 😉
1. Family Members
No matter wherever we go on this planet, family members are the first ones who would make a huge difference when you choose to stay away. Their presence in life and around you does matter whether we realize or not. We usually don’t, until they’re gone for some reason. So, respect them, treat them with utmost importance and take care of them, for you may not realize their worth today, but someday you will.
2. Roommate- Immediate family
Lucky are the ones, those who have a good one to spend their time. If our roomie is kind and helpful, then our experience becomes an adorable one. Though, at times, difference in opinions may occur or ‘ the Ego’ might get hurt in conflicts. But all that becomes acceptable, if it is in moderation and do not cross the limits of decency or what we say healthy discussions. Always remember, when family is not there, he/she will give you the kind of mental and emotional support which only family gives and will make you think that you’re not alone in your hard times.
3.Do not overlook any skill
Sometimes we do not realize the value of few things, we tend to underrate them and keep longing for more. Longing for more is okay, but we should never underestimate a skill. In the long run, it can become a game-changer.
4. The do-it-alone strategy works
The first step is always the scariest one. It often acts as a big restraint in our endeavours. Trust me when I say, go for it and do not stop and take the charge of whole thing alone. Do not wait for people to accompany you in your troubles, because they may help you today, but they won’t forever. So, yeah take the lead, be the captain of your ship and victory will follow.
5. Distractions distract
There will be quite a few distractions around you. Things you crave for, things you don’t want anymore, people you are afraid to face and such. If you’re on a goal drive and are preventing yourself to come across any such situations, believe me, they will chase you like anything. Our will power becomes the saviour at such times.
6. The ‘You’ in you will surprise you
Yes, it is true. If you have dared to leave everything dear to you once aside and have considered the idea of staying alone to achieve something, then you are in for a surprise. The hidden ‘You’ inside you will appear in your hardships and will show that you can do it too.
7. Mental worries
Life is full of ups and downs, few mental imbalances, traumas, trials and tribulations, some great people and some terrible ones. Learn from your failures and do not give up. You might not be able to do it today, but perseverance is the key. Accept the decisions of destiny with grace. Be a little selfish and go on.
As is rightly said somewhere,
“You’ll have bad times, but it’ll always wake you up to the good stuff you were’nt paying attention to.”
8. In the end, you’re alone
You might be surrounded with family, friends, relations , love today, but a time will come when you will be left with none of them and that day you will be on your own. People will claim love, show care, behave nicely, support you, but one day they will leave you to deal with everything on your own. So, I think we all should live away and alone at least for once in a while. It gives you that feeling of how it is like to be on one’s own.
As the famous author says,
“I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person.”
9. It’s all about being happy
Happiness is overrated. Happiness has different definitions. It is not confined in few things. Anything can be a reason for anybody to be happy. For me, if I’m able to do my work perfectly, if I get good company and have a bunch of kind people around me, have a goal in my life to achieve, have a plan to implement, I’m happy. A thoughtless life and an aimless journey never gives you happiness.
10. Money matters
It is only after I started living on my own, I truly recognized the value of each penny I earn, each penny I spend, each penny I waste and each penny I save. Nobody likes to give away their hard-earned money to flow like foam. I learnt that earning is easy, the secret lies in saving it for future and making the righteous use of it. It is a skill must for everyone.